A Whole Different Way to Spiral Mar 29, 2023

I’m sure most of us are no stranger to a good, emotional downward spiral. If somehow you’re new to spiraling, it’s that lovely moment when something negative happens – maybe...

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Waiting is Agony. But it Doesn’t Have to be Mar 23, 2023

Waiting sucks. And it's really hard. Especially if the thing that you're waiting for is something that you REALLY want. In the waiting, all of your biggest fears can take hold of your imagination....

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Celebrate it Before They Validate it Mar 15, 2023

I recently finished a 9-hour read aloud of a 90,000 word novel that I’ve been working on for almost two years. The journey has been interesting, utterly gratifying, maddening, difficult,...

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How to Live a Perfect Day Mar 08, 2023

The last time I thought to myself, wow…what a perfect day…was a day that I cannot even remember. And I think that’s the entire point.

So often, we expect a “perfect...

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Rihanna Wants a Word With Us Feb 16, 2023

Seven years. According to an interview Rihanna gave pre-#FENTYBOWL, it’s been seven years since Rihanna was on stage. And then she showed up like she’d been there all day, every day and...

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Recovering Perfectionists Should Read This Feb 08, 2023

We love a work-hard story. 

Hustle hustle hustle. Hustle some more. Get it right. Get it perfect. Get it. 

Hard work is hard. Hard work is important. I respect the shit out people who...

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Maybe You Should Take it "Too Far" Feb 01, 2023

Typically, we want to “get things right”. Whether it stems from a deep desire to succeed, to fit in, or because of a sneaky tendency toward perfection…getting it right is often...

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Insights Don't Guarantee Growth Jan 25, 2023

Self awareness is a beautiful thing, but it’s not enough. 

Oops. I said it. 

Think about all the times you’ve had an amazing, insightful conversation with someone about a...

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Are Carry-Over Plans Killing You? Jan 18, 2023

Somewhere between the years of 2017 and 2020, I journaled about writing a novel no less than one hundred million times. A dramatization, obviously, but it was a lot. I picked up On Writing by...

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2023 is My Year of Nothing Jan 03, 2023

Deprioritizing achievement is old news. We’ve been on this journey for a while. It started (for me) around the time I wrote You’re Not Lost. Ironically, the lesson got an extra seal of...

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A Gut-Check for When You're Stalled Out Dec 06, 2022

I’m not always in the mood to make progress. Because overwhelm is real. Because the options for which direction to move are truly endless. Sure, “the entire world is your oyster”...

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4 Questions I Ask Myself Every December Nov 30, 2022

When it comes to life planning and goal setting, we treat the start of a new year – which omg is just a month away – as the ultimate clean slate.

It makes sense: The new year brings all...

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